Date: 10/12/2002 10:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 47699
Lemon, you can talk to anybody if you'll just say whatever's on your mind. As long as you aren't rude, which I know you wouldn't be, you can say just about anything you want and a conversation will grow from that. I often find myself carrying on lengthy conversations with total strangers when I'm out in public almost no matter where I go. If I can do it, so can you. It doesn't make any difference if you don't feel comfortable doing that because after you've done it a couple of times, it will begin to be something which comes naturally and very easily to you. You'll come to be thought of as a friendly person and you'll have no problem making new friends. I'm sure you weren't comfortable the first few times you ever tried riding a bike but now you can just get on one and go on your way without even thinking about it. Remember that the next time you are confronted with a situation where you want to approach someone but aren't feeling confident. We were at an event tonight where the concessions were quite expensive. I was waiting in line behind a guy and I commented that it would be nice to be able to eat without having to dip into the money I had been saving back for my retirement. He agreed with me and we proceeded to discuss the prices, the event, etc. I think you get the idea. Now, get out there and make some friends. (Message me anytime you want or need to talk.)  |
Date: 10/12/2002 10:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 5940
Frank summed it up pretty good. Keep trying and you will be surprised at the results. :)  |
Date: 10/12/2002 10:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 20750
Yep sis , What Frank & Larry said!! huggs!  |
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Date: 10/12/2002 10:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 60962
Keep working on being more outgoing. Once you start doing it, the easier it will be for you. You can look online and see what volunteer work you can do in your area. Maybe if you live near a hospital, that would be a great place to start. Shyness is hard to overcome, but it can be done!! Maybe you can get a part time job at a local store or video store. Just some thoughts and I hope they help! seabreeze |
Date: 10/12/2002 11:06:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18516
Most teens hang out at the fast food joints or the car wash..that's how dull it is here. I seem to be more outgoing when I'm with my friend and she's not here to help me.  |
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Date: 10/12/2002 11:08:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18516
Seabreeze, I've thought about working but I haven't decided where yet b/c I live in such a small town. I'd like to work in a hospital with sick kids but the hospital here isn't like a hospital in the big city. |
Date: 10/12/2002 11:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 58642
What if you were to start something in your town. You know be the leader and let others follow you, like do some community service, or something to help anything remotely worth fixing or rebuilding. Maybe then things could look up for you.  |
Date: 10/13/2002 1:23:00 AM
From Authorid: 52489
Don't worry, you're not alone. Shyness affects everybody, and if you put your mind to it, you can get over it. There's a great book about it called, "What To Say After You Say Hello". Read it, and follow the advice! Now, about meeting people: if the teen center only offers sports, then try the nearest park or recreation center. They offer classes or interesting things to do. Your local library should have a bulletin board or stack of pamphlets of clubs or activities. Clubs are great ways to meet people! Another good way is to do volunteer work! If you're homeschooled, your folks will be proud that you want to volunteer your services, and this will be a way your can meet people of high quality who are doing the same thing! Also, check out the local YMCA to see if they offer classes or maybe even camps! Call the local branches of Scouts; I made friends for life when I was in Boy Scouts! Even if you're homeschooled, that's no reason why you can't take part in some ofthe local productions of plays or clubs. When I was in college and had no friends, I went to the local theater group to see if there were any plays going on. It turned out that I'd missed most of the tryouts for parts, but I still got a position in a bit part, and also spent time working on the scenery, which was where I met my first girlfriend! Most animal shelters also accept volunteers, and even if you can't meet people there, the affection from a dog or cat can be boundless! Also, remember this the next time you feel shy, "I Am Loving and Capable". Repeat that to yourself several times. Another good thing to repeat is Frank Herbert's Litany Against Fear, which he wrote in his (geart) book, Dune, "I will not fear, Fear is the Mind-Killer, I will face my fear, I will let it pass over me, And through me, and only I will remain. I will face my fear." That always helps me!
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Date: 10/13/2002 2:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 49269
If you go out sometime, smile and say hello, and see if it gets further than that, i've met many of my firned sthat way :)  |
Date: 10/13/2002 3:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 56369
i didnt have time to read if anyone suggested this, but maybe you should work at a fast food place. Alot of fellow teenagers work there. and as a bonus you get payed as well. Its alot liek school, you ahve your aurthority figures, and you work your friendships around that,, maybe give that a go?  |
Date: 10/13/2002 7:13:00 AM
From Authorid: 58308
Try being a volunteer at that hospital to see if you like it. When I was a teenager, I became a candy striper and also volunteered at one of our local nursing homes. I really liked it. You know you can message me anytime you want!! Much Hugs to you!! Zeeboette  |
Date: 10/13/2002 7:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 46515
Aw, sweetie, I have a daughter who is shy like you. I wish you 2 were near each other.I bet you'd be great friends.  |
Date: 10/13/2002 9:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 52866
*GASP* LEMON! But you're so POPULAR here at USM! Well, since you have helped me SOOOO much...I will give this a try. :) Find out when your community has like dances and stuff for teens only and go to them! Or when your friends come to visit you, instead of maybe sitting around watching TV or something, y'all should go out and check out some places where you know teens hang out a lot. Your friends could help you make new friends. And you should really look into sports...a lot of athletes are such hotties. Lol  |
Date: 10/13/2002 11:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 39770
Well, you have already gotten a good start here on usm. I suggest that you comment someone on something that their wearing and try to keep that going. See what you have in common by asking questions, and try to keep the whole thing positive. You have PLENTY of friends here on usm that you just have to meet. Try going into chat every once in a while, and posting things about yourself. I know that it may seem scary to be alone, and I was like that once to, I'm sure we all have had those kind of moments. I'm probably just as shy as you, and I have met friends. You can try driving around town and seeing if there is any dance studios, or music shops. Music and dance are how I met some of my very close friends. See if there is a girl scout troop nearby, and join it. Many of my friends came that way too. You just need to try a little harder at it. I know that you can do it! *hugs*  |
Date: 10/13/2002 3:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 54830
Be confident, smile, be happy, be optimistic, if ure optimistic its usually very catchy, meaning others will want to be in ure company :-) i wish you luck, and if u need to talk, you can always message me  |
Date: 10/13/2002 11:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 8278
i know how you feel. i am a very shy person myself. even when i first came to USM, i never wrote posts and only responded to a few. and i have a very hard time starting up conversations. it is hard at first...but it does get easier. just a smile and a "hello" can be a good conversation starter.maybe a part-time job would help. i was never really shy in high school...but i got married and had a family when i was 19. so i lost just about all of my friends then. my life was monte. and it is harder when your older. i am 28 now and i found the easiest way to meet people was through work. because i don't really go out or anything, so it is hard to make friends. but if you get a part time job, you will be able to meet people your age. and sports aren't too bad. if you can, find one that you like and give it a try. i wish you the best of luck.  |
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Date: 10/15/2002 10:57:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18516
Remnant, I've thought about starting an animal shelter here but I don't have the money to do it and the county claims they haven't got any money either. I'd love to do it tho. |
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Date: 10/15/2002 11:11:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18516
Arion1, I'll have to read that book!! We don't have a teen center just a recreation center and that's where I went to find out what they offer which was just sports they didn't have anything else. I'll have to look at the library. I'd like to do volunteer work but I don't know if they have anything up here or not. It's a really small town! We don't have a YMCA and I think I'm to old for the camps. We don't have any animals shelters here either and I really would like to work with animals. |
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Date: 10/15/2002 11:18:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18516
I'll try that silver sparkles..I don't like to smile because I have braces but I'll work on that. |
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Date: 10/15/2002 11:21:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18516
Honey Soul, alot of teens do work at the local fast food joints but I think most of those jobs are taken. |
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Date: 10/15/2002 11:26:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18516
Zeeboette, I'd like to work in a hospital! I'd have to check with this hospital..it's mainly for emergency and if the emergency is major then people end up at the bigger hospital in the next county. So this one is pretty small. The people in the ER are rude (some of them not all of them) I've gone to the er before for migraines and a nurse and a dcotor accused me of being on drugs and possibly anorexic..and another doctor and nurse accused my mom of something also. Small town = small minds. |
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Date: 10/15/2002 11:28:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18516
Tiger Monkey, Is your daughter a member of usm? |
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Date: 10/15/2002 11:37:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18516
Luv Bug, I don't think I'm popular on usm..lol Community dances for teens..we don't have that kinda stuff here. :( They really need like a club or a bowling alley or an arcade here for teens. They also need a mall. The only time I see my friend is in the summer time or on a no school day..which isn't often. I want to visit her really bad too. But she lives an hour and ahalf away. |
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Date: 10/15/2002 11:40:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18516
DreamerGirl, You have some good ideas! I don't have my drivers license yet just my permit. We don't have any dance studios here either..I'd like to take some dance lessons too. |
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Date: 10/15/2002 11:41:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18516
I will try my best Giga Bitez. |
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Date: 10/15/2002 11:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18516
Thank you Cage! I am thinking about a job yet..atleast I'd be getting out more and making money! |
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Date: 10/15/2002 11:47:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18516
The town I live in is the problem..it offers NOTHING and is just to small. They offer nothing for teens. This is why I'd like to move. |
Date: 10/17/2002 8:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 45876
That is just like me, I am homeschooled I am a shy freak, and I don't have no friends except one who lives in navada. Maybe we should post a site for shy freaks LOL! well just try to go up to someone you think is nice and start talking to then. g2g now talk 2 ya later! :) hugs  |
