Date: 10/14/2001 9:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 7654
I can't understand her husband leaving unless they were already haveing problems.What man could ever leave his wife because she took in her sisters children? I know with them not haveing children it had to be a big adjustment for the both of them.I just can't see him staying gone if he loves her...He'll be back...He just needs time. There isn't really much that you can do except just be there for her and maybe try to help her out when you can with the children...  |
Date: 10/14/2001 9:20:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 37584
oh believe me if you knew this guy you would see him leaving.  |
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Date: 10/14/2001 9:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 36454
There is no magic word that is going to make it all better for her...she has a lot of stress in her life and for most people it would be unbearable...I can only imagine myself the pain that she is in..to lose a sister, a husband and a baby all in one months' time is ....wow...but she has also gained 2 lives that are dependent upon her for balance and love and understanding...I do not know if she believes in God or what, but God really does not put more on a person than they can bear, BUT she needs to trun her pain over to God and let Him carry her through this hard time..Everything happens for a reason...And as for her husband, well he obviously is not a man of character and she is better off without him though she may not realize it now. If he could not accept her sisters kids into his life, when they so obviously need loving caring people around them now more than ever, then how would he have been with his own child? Would she ahve paid less attention to her child if things had been different? I think not, and then his selfish jealousy would have surfaced then instead of now. As for the loss of her own child, well that is something that you never get over, it has been almost 19 years since I miscarried with my first pregnancy, and I have borne two healthy children since then, but I still wonder sometimes what that child would have been like and what sex it would have been and things like that, the pain lessens but you never forget, and I was only 6 weeks Pregnant when I lost mine. As for her losing her sister, she will have to be strong for the sake of her sisters children, She will have a long hard row, but with love, and suppport and encouragement and a shoulder to cry on from her friends and other family she will get her and her sisters children through this terrible tradgedy. my heart goes out to her, and to you, cause as her friend you will have to be patient and strong as well, I pray that God will give you both the strenght that you need to overcome all that has happened...Charlie Girl |
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Date: 10/14/2001 9:28:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 37584
thanks charlie girl. |
Date: 10/14/2001 10:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 15997
there is really nothing u can say to her to make her feel better. just be there for her and listen to her. if her husband left her she is probably better off without him. that was really dumb of him how could he expect to mean more to her than their kids??? its really sad about her losing the baby. i've been trhough that and thats one of the worst things a woman can ever go through. in a situation like that its really hard to find words to comfort her. everything thats happened to her is not fair but the truth is life isnt fair and somehow we have to find the strength to move on. when i got pregnant my bf left me and i lost the baby. it was one of the hardest times of my life. i had one really good friend listen to me and she was always there for me and it really helped. just be a good friend and tell her that you'll help her in any way possible. for her husband to have left her at a time like this is the worst i can imagine just how much she feels she needs him especially now that she lost her sister and her baby. life gives us some hard things to handle and sometimes we feel nothing can make it better...i know cuz thats how i felt. the pain and heartache does go away with time and God never gives us more than we can handle. i wish i could help you out but i cant and i'm sorry for everything she's going through. she turned to you for good reason so i'm sure the only thing you can do is stand by her and in the end when she's not feeling so much pain or anger she'll appreciate the fact that you were there for her. Good Luck and i'll keep her in my prayers. *HUGS*  |
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Date: 10/15/2001 3:05:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 37584
thanks loonygirl |
Date: 10/15/2001 3:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 33925
As the others have said hon, there really isnt anthing you CAN say to her that is going to make her feel any better. That poor girl...and what a dork her husband must be, and a real coward at that! To walk out on her when she needed him the most?? Geez, she deserves better than that anyway! All you can do hon, is to let her know that you are there for her whenever she needs to talk..be her friend...@}----xoxo  |
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Date: 10/15/2001 3:57:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 37584
thanks mommy i'm glad you read it. |
Date: 10/15/2001 6:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 31531
There is al lot of good advice given here today,They all put it into good words.Just be there for her.Your friendship will be good for her.I'll be praying that all go well for he.God bless you for being her friend>>>HUGS  |
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Date: 10/15/2001 6:14:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 37584
thanks aunt kasti |
Date: 10/15/2001 10:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 37994
Let her know that you are there for her be her friend
and if that doesn't work give her my phone number.-JUST KIDDING-  |
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Date: 10/15/2001 10:56:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 37584
bro. lol. but i don't even have it. joking |
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Date: 10/15/2001 11:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 37994
Is she cute? if so my number is 1-800 STRIPER |
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Date: 10/15/2001 11:05:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 37584
bro yes she is but you have a woman |
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Date: 10/15/2001 11:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 37994
There is enough striper to go around. Just kidding.- |
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Date: 10/15/2001 11:08:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 37584
bro you are silly. |
